Attunement + Evidence: Using What You Experience to Help Your Clients for therapists lindsey walker May 13, 2019

By Lindsey Walker, LMFT
PACT Ambassador and Level II Therapist
https://lindseywalker.com/

Couples therapists often struggle with how to sort through the many feelings and complicated relational dynamics that arise in couple therapy sessions. You have two people, both hurt. Each come with a...

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Self-Regulation and the PACT Therapist arousal carolyn sharp for therapists self regulation Mar 12, 2019

By Carolyn Sharp, LICSW
PACT Level III Therapist
http://www.carolynsharp.com/

After laughing with Marty about the wonderful date they had, Peter adds, “Of course we had to go to the restaurant you wanted.” With that slight emphasis on going to...

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Looking for the Baby attachment lisa rabinowitz secure functioning Feb 19, 2019

By Lisa Rabinowitz
LCPC, PACT Level 2 
https://www.baltimorecounselor.com

 

We have all been in situations in which we feel misunderstood by our partner. We might be left scratching our head, wondering why our partner just doesn’t get us. PACT therapists...

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Moving From Misattunement to Coregulation beth newton prevention secure functioning Feb 12, 2019

By Beth Newton, LCSW, LCAS
PACT Level II, PACT Ambassador
Durham, NC
https://newtoncounseling.com/

Every week I sit in my office watching couples struggle with coregulation. Coregulation is defined as warm and responsive interactions that provide...

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All People Are Difficult, But You Shouldnā€™t Be Too Difficult secure functioning stan tatkin Dec 19, 2018

by Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT

As a couple therapist, I know how difficult people can be. Actually, as a person on this planet and a romantic partner to my wife, Tracey, I count myself as one of those difficult people. Indeed, in no way do I put myself above any of the other annoying people out there....

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Pause, Allow, Soften, Breathe, Appreciate: PACT Therapist Self-Care for therapists secure functioning uri talmor Dec 13, 2018

Uri Talmor, M.A., L.P.C.
PACT Level II
Boulder Colorado
http://www.consciousheartintegration.com/

A couple come into my office, already in argument mode. They emanate Neanderthal-reptilian contempt, talking over each other, and perceiving most of what comes out of the other’s mouth as an...

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How Learning to Facilitate PACT for Couples Helped Me Finally Meet the Love of My Life attachment for therapists secure functioning sefora janel ray Nov 20, 2018

By Sefora Janel Ray, MFT
Berkeley, CA
http://therapytothrive.com/

I had no idea when I took the PACT training to become a couples therapist that it would affect my personal life so dramatically. I can confidently say now that the reason I’m in a secure relationship is because I took the PACT...

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Power Dynamics and Management of Thirds: Avoiding Triangulation in Therapy coregulation debra l. kaplan for therapists thirds Nov 14, 2018

Debra L. Kaplan, MA, LPC, CSAT-S
PACT level 1
Tucson, AZ
debrakaplancounseling.com

Couple therapy is challenging, and some clinicians find it too intimidating to attempt. They worry, for example, that a misattuned observation could alienate not just one but both partners....

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One Way Memory Impacts Your Relationship (and it might not be the way you think)Ā  conflict for couples inga gentile memory secure functioning Oct 23, 2018

Inga Gentile, MFT
PACT faculty
Oslo, Norway
www.ingagentile.com

“Why does she always seem to get clingy right when I have to go out of town for work?”

“Why does he lock himself in his office after work and watch Netflix while I’m alone in the living room?”

Many couples...

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Back to School with the 3Rs allison howe for therapists secure functioning Sep 16, 2018

Allison Howe, LMHC 
PACT Level II 
Saratoga Springs, NY 
www.facebook.com/AllisonHoweLMHC

As PACT-trained therapists, it is perplexing when we find ourselves working with a couple who are not moving into secure functioning. There are a number of factors to consider: Is...

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Using Quality Moments to Soothe or Bypass Core Vulnerabilites for couples inga gentile secure functioning Aug 13, 2018

Inga Gentile, MFT
PACT faculty
Oslo, Norway
www.ingagentile.com

Many couples tell me they simply don’t have the time they need to set aside to address issues in their relationship daily. They are too tired at night, mornings are too hectic, and their days are a blur. However, there are things...

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Creating Community, Deepening Intention carolyn sharp community for therapists retreat secure functionng Jul 15, 2018

by Carolyn Sharp, LICSW
PACT level 3 candidate
Seattle, WA
http://www.carolynsharp.com/

One of the richest aspects of the PACT approach is the experiential, embodied nature of the sessions. Over the course of a 2- to 3-hour session, couples develop a felt understanding of one another and of a new...

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