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Whether a little spat or a screaming match, all couples fight. And all couples could do it better. Conflict resolution for couples is a crucial skill -- and you can learn how to fight well to resolve your own conflicts better in just one week.

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Wired for Love Couples Retreats

The PACT Institute holds several workshops every year for people looking to incorporate the PACT principles of security, trust, and mutual respect into their relationships. These workshops, which draw from neuroscience and attachment theory models, are designed to help couples and individuals seeking secure-functioning relationships. These retreats are for everyone interested in relationship success and long-term happiness.


"Stan is an incredible teacher. In a few hours, he was able to impart a depth of understanding that I figured would take months. He doesnโ€™t teach knowledge, he teaches understanding. Very helpful workshop on becoming a better couple."

"We loved it. Learned a lot and enjoyed the great energy and love from the group. Would highly recommend to other couples or clinicians!"

"This was the best workshop ever. Stan and Tracey are phenomenal teachers. The material was amazing, as was my experience here. Also, it was so helpful to have their assistance to help me and my partner."

"Excellent workshop with skilled and caring leaders. Stan is so skilled, and Tracey warm and a great partner. Learned so much."

"Amazing! I came with an intention to be open, [to] truly understand and learn about myself and my partner and interplay, and absolutely came away with that. Stan and Tracey created a safe environment that allowed us to be vulnerable, which truly enhanced our learning. Thank you!"

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What does a PACT session look like?

Here's how you benefit from the key features of this approach:

  • Your therapist will focus on moment-to-moment shifts in your face, body, and voice, and ask you to pay close attention to these as a couple.
  • Your therapist will create experiences similar to those troubling your relationship and help you work through them in real time during the session.
  • PACT tends to require fewer sessions than do other forms of couple therapy.
  • PACT sessions often exceed the 50-min hour and may last as long as 3–6 hours. Longer times allow for the in-depth work of PACT.
  • Your therapist may videotape sessions to provide immediate feedback to you.

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