When it comes to repair, the fastest wins. maxims repair stan tatkin May 27, 2012

by Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT,
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Our brain is biased toward making war than love. Our brainstem and lower limbic structures are always on the lookout for threat and danger. And painful memories are more easily made than pleasurable ones. This bias serves the human imperative "thou shalt...

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Kid and pets are easy, partners are hard maxims stan tatkin May 27, 2012

by Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT,
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This is based on the principle that adult romantic primary attachment relationships are more difficult because of their psychobiological weight -- memories, expectations, fears, threats to security, etc. Primary partners tend to become "deep family." Like...

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