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Wired for Love Couples Retreats:

Creating an Owner’s Manual for a Secure-Functioning Relationship  



Wired for Love Online Retreat

Invest in a happier, healthier relationship.

For the first time ever, Stan and Tracey Tatkin are offering their famous Wired for Love retreat online! While this is not the time to gather in-person for a retreat, it’s a better time than ever to work on your partnership. Whether you’re squabbling during lockdown or could never make the time for one of the weekend retreats, this is a unique opportunity to work with Stan and Tracey in a small, exclusive group. In 5 two-hour live online sessions, you’ll reap the same benefits as an in-person retreat. 

What you’ll learn: 

  • Establishing a nurturing two-person system called  the couple bubble
  • Understanding how your brain helps and hurts you in a relationship
  • Practicing how you can soothe yourself and each other
  • Knowing your attachment style -- how your brain relates to other people
  • Learning how to fight well and how to recover quickly

Don’t expect a talking head or a lecture -- each interactive session is jam-packed with demonstrations and exercises. 

Sessions meet on Saturdays via Zoom from 1-3 pm (Pacific) on: June 13, June 20, June 27, July 11, and July 18, 2020. The full retreat and Wired for Love handbook cost $575.

Sold Out! Sign up here to join our waitlist & hear about upcoming Wired for Love workshops.

Meet Stan & Tracey

We believe in secure-functioning relationships. Sensitivity, fairness, trust, mutual respect. These are the relationship principles we hold dear.

In our Wired for Love couples retreats, you’ll learn how to incorporate these values every day in your relationship.

Work directly with Drs. Stan Tatkin and Tracey Boldemann-Tatkin and transform your relationship over the course of a weekend.

The workshops, based on neuroscience research and attachment theory models, will help you strengthen your relationship, build intimacy, and manage conflict.

Who is the workshop for?

Wired for Love retreats are designed for all couples in a committed relationship. You do not need to be married or planning to get married. Truly, all couples could benefit, whether you’re needing help to repair a broken relationship or wanting to make a good relationship even stronger and more fulfilling.

What will you do?

Stan and Tracey lead couples through fun exercises and experiments designed to help you identify your partner’s attachment style, read each other’s body language and arousal states, and manage conflicts. Hands-on activities help coupes create secure-functioning relationships and stronger, more fulfilling connections. No public discussion or disclosure is involved. All work is done as a couple. Stan and Tracey are available to offer support during exercises.

What will you learn? 

  • Understand the basic biology of relationship connection and the psychobiological particulars of your partner.

  • Recognize your own and your partner’s relationship styles.

  • Read your partner’s nonverbal behavior.

  • Play well and fight well together. 

  • Form mutually satisfying and lasting agreements based on fairness, justice, and sensitivity.

  • Build greater intimacy.

  • Move toward secure functioning with your partner.

"Stan is an incredible teacher. In a few hours, he was able to impart a depth of understanding that I figured would take months. He doesn’t teach knowledge, he teaches understanding. Very helpful workshop on becoming a better couple."

"We loved it. Learned a lot and enjoyed the great energy and love from the group. Would highly recommend to other couples or clinicians!"

"This was the best workshop ever. Stan and Tracey are phenomenal teachers. The material was amazing, as was my experience here. Also, it was so helpful to have their assistance to help me and my partner."

"Excellent workshop with skilled and caring leaders. Stan is so skilled, and Tracey warm and a great partner. Learned so much."

"Amazing! I came with an intention to be open, [to] truly understand and learn about myself and my partner and interplay, and absolutely came away with that. Stan and Tracey created a safe environment that allowed us to be vulnerable, which truly enhanced our learning. Thank you!"

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To encourage social distancing and to support your safety and well-being, we have canceled or postponed many of our upcoming, in-person Wired for Love Couples Retreats.
We look forward to gathering and strengthening relationships with you when it is safe to do so. 
For now, we wish you good health, safety, and peace of mind.

2020 Wired for Love Retreats

Registration is done through the host location.  The links will be updated as registrations open. 

Previous retreat hosts:

Marriage and Family Therapists, Licensed Professional Clinical Counselors, Licensed Educational Psychologists, Licensed Clinical Social Workers, and Certified Counselors: The PACT Institute has been approved by NBCC as an Approved Continuing Education Provider, ACEP No. 6641. Programs that do not qualify for NBCC credit are clearly identified. The PACT Institute is solely responsible for all aspects of the programs. 

New York Social Workers: PACT Institute SW CPE is recognized by the New York State Education Department’s State Board for Social Work as an approved provider of continuing education for licensed social workers #0104. 

New York Social Workers & Mental Health Practitioners: PACT Institute, LLC is recognized by the New York State Education Department’s State Board for Mental Health Practitioners as an approved provider of continuing education for licensed mental health counselors. #MHC-0114.

Psychologists: The PACT Institute is approved by the American Psychological Association to sponsor continuing education for psychologists.The PACT Institute maintains responsibility for this program and its content. 


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