How Do You Know If a Couple Is Secure Functioning? secure functioning stan tatkin Jan 09, 2022

Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT

PACT Founder


In PACT, we expect couples to be secure functioning. But even secure-functioning couples have problems. You will see secure-functioning couples in your office.

How do you know if the couple in your office is secure functioning?

  1. They come in with a therapeutic...
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“Happy Wife, Happy Life”… Right? for couples mark mouro secure functioning Oct 20, 2021

By Mark Mouro

PACT Level 1 


I don’t know about you, but when I was a young man growing up and trying to navigate the treacherous world of relationships, one adage stuck with me more than any other: “Happy wife, happy life.” Remember that one? Some of you may live by that...

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3 Things Couple Therapy Can’t Do and What It Can annie chen for couples secure functioning Sep 20, 2021

 By Annie Chen, LMFT (https://www.changeinsight.net)

PACT Level 2 Therapist


The Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT) centers around a set of principles that are grounded in relationship fairness, mutuality, and safety, what we call secure functioning. Everything I do as a PACT...

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The Use of PACT Principles in Non-Romantic Dyads for therapists secure functioning yvonne oke Jul 01, 2021

Yvonne Oke, LMFT

PACT Level 2

https://www.mymoderntherapy.com/yvonne-oke


One of my favorite things about the PACT model is the ability to be creative. As a marriage and family therapist, I have the opportunity to work with not only romantic dyads but also dyads that consist of family members,...

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Kids Need Parents to Put Their Couple Relationship First kara hoppe parents secure functioning May 19, 2021

Kara Hoppe, MA, LMFT

PACT Level 2 Therapist


The best piece of parenting advice I ever heard had nothing to do with sleep, solid foods, or baby wearing. In fact, it had nothing to do directly with my baby. It was simple yet radical wisdom from a trusted source: my mentor and Baby Bomb ...

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How Creating a Shared Purpose Unites and Renews Couples beth newton for therapists secure functioning Jun 17, 2020

By Beth Newton, LCSW, LCAS
PACT Level 2 Therapist, PACT Ambassador
https://newtoncounseling.com/


“Winter Is Coming”

“We Do Not Sow” 

“Unbowed, Unbent, Unbroken”

“Family, Duty, Honor” 

If you are a Game of Thrones fan, you know that each...

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Staying Connected Despite Your COVID-Cancelled Wedding co-regulation for couples secure functioning susan stork weddings May 27, 2020

by Susan Stork, LCPC, NCC

PACT Level 2 Therapist, PACT Ambassador

www.spacebetweencounselingservices.com/


Many once soon-to-be-married couples have had their wedding plans altered due to the COVID-19 pandemic. You booked your venue, hotel, caterer, and entertainment – and likely spent...

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Beyond the Valentine Chocolates and Roses: Creating a Long-Lasting Relationship clinton power for couples repair secure functioning Feb 13, 2020

Clinton Power

PACT Level 2 Therapist, PACT Ambassador
clintonpower.com.au


Some people want chocolates and roses for Valentine's Day, but it's not the small (or big) romantic gestures on special occasions that lead to relationship success. To go from an initial date to a long-term relationship...

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Mutual Injury: The Challenge of Symmetry arousal attachment for therapists patricia hart regulation secure functioning Nov 14, 2019

Patricia Hart, Ph.D.

Clinical Psychologist

PACT Level 3 Therapist, PACT Ambassador


We have all encountered that moment of impasse with our couples (and probably with our own relationships) when each partner feels like the injured party. The other is perceived as dangerous, and neither partner...

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The Big Win - What Divorcing Parents (and Their Kids) Want   divorce for couples parents secure functioning Oct 27, 2019

 

By Aurisha Smolarski, MA, LMFT 

PACT Level 2 Therapist
www.aurishasmolarski.com


 The marriage and relationship have ended, and you wish you could just say goodbye to each other and move on. But . . . you have kids. 

Relating to each other as divorced parents can be as...

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Using PACT to Fight Fair attunement coregulation for therapists kate balestrieri secure functioning Oct 21, 2019

By Kate Balestrieri, Psy.D., CSAT-S, CST

PACT Level 2 Therapist

www.triunetherapy.com


All couples fight. Therapists know this. Couples (most couples) know this. But in the moment, it feels like annihilation for a couple ill-prepared to stay attuned and remain committed to a secure-functioning...

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How Secure-Functioning Principles Help Parents Who Are Divorcing divorce edna avraham for therapists secure functioning Jun 26, 2019

By Edna Avraham, LMFT
PACT Ambassador, Level III Therapist
ednaavraham.com

The Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT) focuses on helping and coaching couples to “secure” each other in order to reduce threat, thrive, and grow closer. While they are designed for couples who...

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