From Me to We: When Perspective is Key for couples sashi gerzon-rose Apr 20, 2021

Sashi Gerzon-Rose, MA, LPC

PACT Level 1 


In Japanese, the phrase sottaku doji means “simultaneously pecking from inside and outside.” Zen Buddhism uses this as a metaphor for the relationship between teacher and student; the student is pecking from the inside, and the...

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From Hurt to Hot: Helping Couples Navigate Sex After Trauma Ā  co-regulation for therapists kate balestrieri trauma Apr 06, 2021

By Kate Balestrieri, Psy.D., CST, CSAT-S

PACT Level 3 Candidate

modernintimacy.com


Sexual trauma knows no discrimination. It can happen to anyone, at any age, and occurs across gender, race, religious affiliation, and socioeconomic status. The statistics vary from study to study, but of reported...

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Defining Healthy Dependence dependency for couples mutuality vanessa morgan Mar 16, 2021

Vanessa Morgan, MS, LMFT

PACT Level 3 Candidate


In an attempt to understand and treat clients, therapists often use terms, such as codependent, toxic, narcissistic. These words then find their way into pop culture and, like a bad game of telephone, can lose their intended meaning or become...

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Why Video Recording My Sessions Makes Me a Better Therapist for therapists margaret martin video recording Mar 10, 2021

By Margaret Martin, LCSW, SEP

PACT Level 3 Candidate


Training in the PACT model sparks excitement for clinicians. It also presents a steep learning curve. Even seasoned therapists experience some uncertainty when learning such an active and complex approach. PACT challenges therapists to...

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On Being Found for couples stan tatkin Feb 21, 2021

by Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT

PACT Founder


A study by Nagasawa and his colleagues in Japan (2009) some years ago involving dogs and their owners found that if a dog looked into its owner’s eyes by finding the gaze first, the owner’s oxytocin levels went up. (I suspect dopamine might also...

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How the Pandemic Has Changed Us for therapists pandemic stan tatkin Feb 12, 2021

From the Science of Psychotherapy, January 2021

By Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT


Most people will probably agree that 2020 has been an exceedingly difficult year: the world moving away from liberal democracy; a global pandemic that  may continue well into 2022; global economic...

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3 Tips to Help You Reconnect with Your Partner exercises for couples lisa rabinowitz reconnect Jan 18, 2021

By Lisa Rabinowitz, LCPC

PACT Level 3 Candidate


By any chance, are you feeling like a roommate instead of a partner in your relationship? Have you noticed that you and your partner don’t talk to each other when you are both at home except when it comes to discussing bills and logistics?...

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Improving Couples Communication Through Neuroscience Ā  communication debra campell for couples neuroscience Jan 12, 2021

 

Debra Campbell, MS, LMFT, PACT 3 Candidate

www.gocuris.com/debracampbell


“Learning how to communicate better with my partner” is a commonly stated goal of couples in therapy. While not inaccurate, learning how to communicate better is often oversimplified to mean using the...

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Windows to the Soul: Changing States Through Eye-Gazing co-regulation eye gazing for therapists interventions jacqui christie Dec 09, 2020

by Jacqui Christie, M.Psych

PACT Level 2 Therapist, PACT Ambassador


 Anyone who works with couples knows how tricky the particulars of partner dynamics can be. In fact, the more people in the room, the more energy gets brought into that room. The potential for that energy to become intense...

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4 Quick Strategies to Resolve Couple Conflict clinton power conflict fighting for couples Dec 09, 2020

by Clinton Power, Grad. Dip Couns/Psych., Ad. Dip Gestalt Therapy

PACT Level 2 Therapist, PACT Ambassador


All couples fight at one time or another. If you think you should never argue, you’re unrealistic. A more productive goal is to learn how to quickly and efficiently resolve your...

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Lost Your Spark? How to Reignite Your Love caelen cann for couples Nov 18, 2020

By Caelen S. Cann, MA, LPC, LAC, ADS

PACT Level 3 Candidate, PACT Ambassador


A couple new to me, Kristin and Dan, are sitting in my office. This is their first session, and from what they have presented thus far, their relationship isn’t on fire. “Why are you two seeking couple...

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A Note of Gratitude and Our Vision for the Near FutureĀ ā€” from Stan and Tracey Tatkin for therapists stan tatkin tracey boldemann tatkin Nov 11, 2020

We’ve known for a long time about the many benefits of cultivating a sense of gratitude: more joy, less stress, better health.

So when anxiety started to bubble up earlier this year, it seemed like an especially good time to begin a more intentional practice of flexing those gratitude...

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