By Lee Kraemer, R.P. CTP dipl. B.A.Â
PACT Level 3 Therapist
Let’s address the good, the bad, and the ugly use of humor by both therapists and couples.Â
Most people have experienced the discomfort of being with a sniping couple at a dinner party or in a therapeutic setting.Â
“I’m only joking,” th...
Blair Anne Hensen, MS, LCPC, NCC
PACT Level 2 Therapist
As the daylight grows longer and temperatures get warmer, it’s time to get outside! Nature is an incredibly important part of wellness. Stepping out of our human-made worlds and into nature offers presence external to ourselves. Simply taking i...
PACT Level 3 Therapist
PACT therapists help couples create what Stan Tatkin calls a couple bubble. In this relational space, each partner can be themselves and accept each other as is. The bubble is an ecosystem that fosters safety and security for partners. Once their couple ...
PACT Level 2
PACT Note to Parents: For guided practice and more skills to bring to your partnership, register for Kara’s Win-Win Parenting: Better Partners Make Better Parents, a new PACT workshop for couples, Saturdays online, April 23–May 21.Â
When I read articles such as...
Lilian Borges, LPC
PACT Level 3 Therapist
   The two things I am most passionate about are hypnosis and PACT. I have been teaching hypnosis for almost 30 years and, as I am deepening my understanding of PACT, I have been exploring ways to integrate PACT and hypnosis. I’d like to share some ...
Renee D. Doe, PhD, LMFT, LPC
PACT Level 1 Therapist
           The idea of secure functioning is a main focus of PACT therapy. This focus hones in on creating and maintaining a safe container, where both parties operate in a two-person attachment system free of deception, abusive behaviors, and...
PACT Level 3 Therapist
Hmm. Oooh. Aaah.Â
Writing a blogpost about the importance of using sounds as a technique or intervention within couples therapy is challenging. When I asked my colleagues for the best ways to describe these sounds, their replies varied: Motherese. ...
PACT Level 2 Therapist
I'm sure this hasn't happened to you (wink), so I'll speak from experience. Before my partner and I discovered PACT, we'd have conflict, just like we do now. Before PACT, one of us would raise an issue with the goodhearted goal of finding a soluti...
Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT
PACT Founder
In PACT, we expect couples to be secure functioning. But even secure-functioning couples have problems. You will see secure-functioning couples in your office.
How do you know if the couple in your office is secure functioning?
- They come in with a therapeu ...
PACT Level 2Â
“Who is your real family, me or them?”
Figuring out how to deal with your and your partner’s extended families can be difficult. It’s one of the major sources of disagreement between partners. Both partners can have deep feelings and a strong individua...
PACT Level 3
Vipassana meditation is an ancient mindfulness tradition, which focuses on insight into the causes of suffering and the path to freedom. The Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy® (PACT) is a multifaceted therapeutic methodology for working with coup...
PACT Level 2 Therapist
Insecurely attached partners, those who operate from a one-person psychological system, tend to place “pro-self values over relationship and defend against interdependency and mutuality,” as Stan Tatkin writes in the October 2020 issue of Science of Psyc...
