The Boomerang Effect Feb 14, 2016

by Eva Van Prooyen, M.F.T., PACT faculty, Los Angeles, CA
Website: www.evavp.com
Email: [email protected]


Loving in a way that supports, energizes, and grows a long-term relationship means loving your partner the way he or she needs to be loved. Many well-intended people unconsciously get ca...

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On the Road to Secure Functioning Dec 14, 2015

by Inga Gentile, LMFT (California), licensed psychologist (Norway)
PACT core faculty, Tromsø, Norway
Website: http://ingagentile.com


A couple’s relationship is especially vulnerable to crisis during key transition points in life, such as the birth of a baby, the formation of a first romantic relati...

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Psychodrama in Couple Therapy psychodrama stefan neszpor Nov 15, 2015

by Stefan Neszpor, FRCPC, director of the Adelaide Couples Clinic and PACT Level II practitioner, Adelaide, Australia
Email: [email protected]


Most couples have a story about what is taking place in their relationship. However, the story often doesn’t match the reality of how they experience one...

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Beyond the Ick Factor: Deeper Healing for Issues of Sexuality Oct 13, 2015

by Karen Berry, Ph.D.
PACT faculty, Warwick, NY
Website: http://www.drkarenberry.com/
Email: [email protected]


Often when couples come to therapy seeking assistance with issues related to sexuality, the problem is not what it appears to be. They describe issues such as sexual dysfunction, discr...

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Therapist Self-Regulation, or Flying into a Hurricane Sep 04, 2015

by Hans Jorg Stahlschmidt, Ph.D., PACT faculty, Berkeley, CA
Website: www.stahlschmidt-therapy.com
Email: [email protected]


Some couple therapists have referred to their work as flying a helicopter into a hurricane. Perhaps the metaphor is inflated, but couple therapy is certainly an enterpr...

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Fighting About Hot Topics: "Do What I Want!" Aug 05, 2015

by Annette Kreuz Smolinski
Licensed clinical psychologist (Spain), Dipl. Psych. ( Germany),
Trainer and supervisor in couple and family therapy, PACT Level II practitioner
Website: www.ctff-fasedos.com


The annoying truth is that all couples fight. Conflicts are an absolutely normal phenomenon in hum...

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The Red and Blue of Marriage Jul 13, 2015

by Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT,
stantatkin.com


A study by Harvard University researchers that looked at data for more than five million families, and that was recently featured in The New York Times, found that where you live in the United States greatly influences your chances of getting married. The ...

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Working Through Betrayal – Regret to Redemption Jun 09, 2015

by Eva Van Prooyen, M.F.T., PACT faculty, Los Angeles CA
www.evavp.com


When a betrayal has been discovered in their relationship, couples come to therapy feeling lost, disoriented, confused, and angry. They may even wonder if there is hope. Infidelity strips away happiness and threatens emotional ...

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Applying the Three PACT Domains arousal attachment for therapists mary ackerman neuroscience May 15, 2015

by Mary Ackerman, MIC, BASS (Cllg); CARE Counselling Hong Kong, PACT Level II practitioner
Website: carecounsellinghk.com

Philippe and Grace, who have been married for twelve years, are clients in my clinical practice in Hong Kong. He is French Swiss and works in finance, and she is Korean American ...

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Our Automatic Brain: Everything New Will Soon Be Old brain for couples neuroscience stan tatkin Apr 01, 2015

by Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT,
stantatkin.com

Our brains are remarkable organs. They take in and use massive amounts of information from inside and outside our bodies and allow us to go through about 90% of our day automatically. We can get from point A to point B while checking our emails, talking to o...

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King and Queen: Protecting the Couple Relationship for therapists rachel holland secure functioning Mar 14, 2015

by Rachel Holland, DClinPsych, PACT faculty, Buckinghamshire, UK
Email: [email protected]

One of the characteristics of secure functioning a PACT therapist communicates is that romantic couples, as the King and Queen of their domain, protect their relationship and each other in publ...

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Couples in Distress: Working With Bottom-up Interventions for therapist inga gentile interventions Feb 16, 2015

by Inga Gentile, MFT, PACT faculty, Bardu, Norway
Website: www.ingagentile.com
Email: [email protected]
“Nothing is more revealing than movement.” — Martha Graham

Despite our conscious narratives, which are formed in the brain’s left hemisphere, much of what we do is driven by fast-acting proc...

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