Daily Rekindling of Love arousal for couples for therapists stan tatkin Aug 07, 2012

by Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT,
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Romantic love is an addiction. Although we "feel" romantic love, the feeling is largely the result of a particular brain circuitry and neurochemical cocktail more closely related to the addiction or reward circuit.

Successful long term couples understand ho...

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Scratching the Right Itch arousal for couples maxims stan tatkin Jun 15, 2012

by Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT,
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Do you ever have an itch on your back you can't scratch yourself? Do you ever ask your partner to scratch that itch only to be frustrated when he or she continually misses the "right spot?" Missing the spot once or twice is forgivable. But what about missing...

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Tortoises and Hares arousal for couples for therapists stan tatkin Jun 15, 2012

by Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT,
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Quite different from Airplanes and Submarines are Tortoises and Hares. While the former points to arousal preference for either high sympathetic or low parasympathetic states, the latter refers to mental processing speed, or "RPMs" as I like to call it. Ther...

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Airplanes and Submarines arousal for couples stan tatkin typology Jun 05, 2012

by Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT,
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Airplanes and submarines are quite different from one another. They both travel up and down, with sea level often as their starting point. However, their atmospheres are quite different as is the speed with which they travel. Different as well are their pers...

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When it comes to repair, the fastest wins. maxims repair stan tatkin May 27, 2012

by Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT,
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Our brain is biased toward making war than love. Our brainstem and lower limbic structures are always on the lookout for threat and danger. And painful memories are more easily made than pleasurable ones. This bias serves the human imperative "thou shalt not...

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Kid and pets are easy, partners are hard maxims stan tatkin May 27, 2012

by Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT,
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This is based on the principle that adult romantic primary attachment relationships are more difficult because of their psychobiological weight -- memories, expectations, fears, threats to security, etc. Primary partners tend to become "deep family." Like it...

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