Loss Avoidance Complicates Principled Romantic Relationships stan tatkin Sep 14, 2022

By Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT

Originally published in Science of Psychotherapy, July 2022


Introduction

As a couple therapist, I struggle with partners every day who seem primarily to follow their feelings and emotions when attempting to govern each other. These couples exist without a shared,...

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How Do You Know If a Couple Is Secure Functioning? secure functioning stan tatkin Jan 09, 2022

Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT

PACT Founder


In PACT, we expect couples to be secure functioning. But even secure-functioning couples have problems. You will see secure-functioning couples in your office.

How do you know if the couple in your office is secure functioning?

  1. They come in with a therapeutic...
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Welcoming Baby Bomb baby bomb for couples kara hoppe stan tatkin Aug 16, 2021

Welcoming Baby Bomb

The following is an excerpt from Baby Bomb: A Relationship Survival Guide for New Parents, by Kara Hoppe and Stan Tatkin, now available for purchase here. 

When Jude was only a few days old, Charlie and I were sitting all cozy on our couch on a winter afternoon, as...

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A Humbling Journey Toward an Anti-Racist PACT Institute for therapists stan tatkin Aug 12, 2021

Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT


In the summer of 2020, the PACT Institute – and Tracey and I personally – made a commitment to improve our diversity, equity, and inclusion (DEI) efforts and to better serve systemically marginalized communities. We immediately started working with a DEI...

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On Being Found for couples stan tatkin Feb 21, 2021

by Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT

PACT Founder


A study by Nagasawa and his colleagues in Japan (2009) some years ago involving dogs and their owners found that if a dog looked into its owner’s eyes by finding the gaze first, the owner’s oxytocin levels went up. (I suspect dopamine might also...

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How the Pandemic Has Changed Us for therapists pandemic stan tatkin Feb 12, 2021

From the Science of Psychotherapy, January 2021

By Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT


Most people will probably agree that 2020 has been an exceedingly difficult year: the world moving away from liberal democracy; a global pandemic that  may continue well into 2022; global economic...

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A Note of Gratitude and Our Vision for the Near FutureĀ ā€” from Stan and Tracey Tatkin for therapists stan tatkin tracey boldemann tatkin Nov 11, 2020

We’ve known for a long time about the many benefits of cultivating a sense of gratitude: more joy, less stress, better health.

So when anxiety started to bubble up earlier this year, it seemed like an especially good time to begin a more intentional practice of flexing those gratitude...

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Love in the Time of the Coronavirus: PACT and Telehealth beth o'brien carolyn sharp gabrielle usatynski jason brand stan tatkin telehealth Mar 27, 2020
Gabrielle Usatynski, LPC
PACT Level 3 Therapist, PACT Ambassador
 
Carolyn Sharp, LICSW
PACT Level 3 Therapist, PACT Ambassador  
 
Beth O’Brien, Ph.D., Licensed Psychologist
PACT Level 3 Therapist, PACT Ambassador
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Working with Families ā€“ PACT Style family for therapists stan tatkin trauma Jul 17, 2019

 

By Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT
PACT Co-Founder
http://thepactinstitute.com

Two main issues face the PACT family therapy process: Structure and Attendance.

Structure

A challenge within typical family therapy is the structure that holds some family members to their particular family roles. While...

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All People Are Difficult, But You Shouldnā€™t Be Too Difficult secure functioning stan tatkin Dec 19, 2018

by Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT

As a couple therapist, I know how difficult people can be. Actually, as a person on this planet and a romantic partner to my wife, Tracey, I count myself as one of those difficult people. Indeed, in no way do I put myself above any of the other annoying people out there....

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Secure-Functioning Essentials: Taking Care of Yourself and Your Partner at the Same Time for couples neuroscience secure functioning stan tatkin Jun 17, 2018

by Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT

Many partners ask me how to take care simultaneously of themselves and of their partner. In practical terms, this can be difficult to carry off. Similarly, some couple therapists find it difficult to convey the principle of simultaneous care to couples they treat. This...

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Our Automatic Brain: Everything New Will Soon Be Old brain for couples neuroscience stan tatkin Apr 01, 2015

by Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT,
stantatkin.com

Our brains are remarkable organs. They take in and use massive amounts of information from inside and outside our bodies and allow us to go through about 90% of our day automatically. We can get from point A to point B while checking our emails, talking to...

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