On Being Found arousal attachment dog dopamine eyes for couples love mutual regulation pair bonding stan tatkin Nov 09, 2013

by Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT,
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A study by Nagasawa and his colleagues in Japan (2009) some years ago involving dogs and their owners found that if a dog looked into its owner’s eyes by finding the gaze first, the owner’s oxytocin levels went up. (I suspect dopamine might...

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Train Your Partner attachment for couples ideas love maxims pair bonding partnership persuade stan tatkin teach train Feb 12, 2013

by Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT,
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In case you haven’t heard me say this before, we come to relationships basically feral, untrained, and barely parented. Therefore, as romantic partners we must train one another to be in secure-functioning relationship. This IS NOT accomplished by...

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Picking the Right Partner biology for couples hormones love lust nature pair bonding picker stan tatkin vetting Oct 28, 2012

by Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT,
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“I always seem to pick the wrong person for long-term relationships. There’s something wrong with my ‘picker.’ I should just give up.”

Many times I have heard this kind of gripe from patients, acquaintances, and friends. While...

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