When couples spiral, our best intentions lose efficacy.  

When both partners are dysregulated, insight-based communication won't reach them. They need safety first. PACT Faculty Eda Arduman developed a new PACT Intervention, The Compassionate Request, to interrupt escalation and restore the Couple Bubble in as little as 60 seconds.

You’ll gain a practical skill grounded in PACT principles and psychoanalytic training, along with: 

• How attachment styles and arousal biases create predictable relational traps
• Why talking about emotions often amplifies dysregulation rather than resolving it
• The step-by-step structure of the Compassionate Request
• Why brevity and behavioral specificity, not emotional disclosure, are the keys to genuine co-regulation
• How to coach couples to respond with a truthful yes, no, or counteroffer, plus the pitfall of false compliance 
• How voice, facial expression, pacing, and proximity function are co-regulatory tools, not just communication style
• How to use this technique with highly reactive couples, shutdown partners, and in-session enactments
• How to help couples build procedural memory for rapid repair, so the skill becomes available even under stress

Move couples from individual reactivity to collaborative functioning quickly.

Move couples from individual reactivity to collaborative functioning quickly. 

July 31, 2026
8:00am - 10:30am Pacific Time 

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When you purchase the workshop, you’ll receive a recording that you’ll be able to watch on demand for 3 months after the live event. The recording is only available if you register before the live event begins. 

CE credit is available for this workshop.